rux

from rux, on the 02 may 2006. from friends only blog, here.

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first things first. there is such a thing in this world as love. love is all over the place. love is an intangible entity that does transcend all boundaries. it cannot be touched nor held nor smelled, but it definitely can be seen and felt. we are the living consequence of love itself.

parental love, sisterly love, brotherly love, romantic love. a mother will do anything in the world for her own children, and so will a father. run into a burning building to save her child. not spend so her child can have a better education and better quality of life. protect her child's innocence. a boy from a destitute family gives his sister his half of the bread even though that's the only thing he will eat in the day. a boy readily donates part of his organ to his sister albeit thinking he will die after that when in actual fact he won't, but he doesn't know. children are a link between their parents. romantic love, however, is probably the most emphasised as far as i have seen.

love is about sacrifice, and that i cannot agree more. compromise. caring for a special someone, even if the love is unrequitted. why do people love? it's a feeling, love, and as we all know, we humans cannot control our feelings as much as we'd like to. why do some people love even though they know their love is not returned? it's not for materialistic reasons, nor company in lonesome times. why do we love then, we cannot explain. leave it to the cardiologists. why do some people like blue cheese, or purple dots, or the feel of satin against their skin, or have favourite colours? inexplicable, but it's the same thing.

you know you're in love, when you're willing to sacrifice the second most important thing in your life for it (assuming love is the first) and expect nothing in return. true, humans need company. but we do not need to love to have company. we have what we call friends. acquaintances. relatives. pets. these are all company. love is not just wanting someone to be there when everyone else is gone. love is wanting someone to be there at every intersection point in your life, to see you through thick and thin, to support and advise, to have fun and play with, to understand you and you understand him. love is being there for each other whenever the occasion calls for it - and even when it doesn't. love is a motivation in life. without it, your life will be a meaningless void. love is not just so you can get a flat. you get a flat because you want a love nest for the love that is already there. (that said, you can get a flat overseas even if you're single.)

yes, people do change. their dreams change. their needs and wants change. but without change, love would hold no meaning either. love is going through life and the changes it brings with someone else. love does exist between two people with different aspirations and dreams. love is exciting. it would be boring if both people have the exact same goals in life and exact same perspectives and exact same everything else. love is supporting each other and seeing each other through that mangled pathway to the final destination one had originally set foot on. and love, is definitely not infatuation. people in true love do not have sex in a hot tub and then say they are in love. they brew the love in a hot tub and then have sex in it. what i'm saying is that sex is a sequel or follow-up to love, not the other way round. (read: does not include sex-obsessed bastards)

love is an extremely thin and fragile piece of glass that we don't look out for and end up walking right through, thereby shattering it to pieces while we stare at the remains on the floor. we then say we do not believe in that piece of glass as a whole, because we haven't seen it as a whole, and how can anyone believe in something he or she hasn't yet seen? if you have never been hungry, you will never know what it is like to be hungry. if you have never been poor you will never know what it is like to be poor. or rich. or beautiful. or ugly. love is everywhere, but there just isn't enough to go around. if there were, hungry children would not go hungry and wars would not have been fought. everyone will be happily in love and no one will be skeptical about a thing called love.